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10 things women want to hear

What things do women really want to hear from men? I always get asked this question. I find this to be a great question because most women want to hear pretty much the same thing, honesty at all time and anything that directly relates to them. Duh Sam Lee!  Well I have actually created a list of 10 things women want to hear from men. Whether you are approaching a woman for the first very time or you are trying to get your girlfriend to open up more in your relationship, they all love to hear the following:

1. Honesty. The truth shall set you free! Not only is that a cliché line from criminal TV show interrogators but it is also key to what women want to hear. Enough said!

2. Never tell them what they want to hear! But… but… I know what you’re thinking… Never tell women what they want to hear? Of course not, you suck up! Many women can smell game, cowardly fear and a man that is not confident from the jump of any approach. I have yet to approach a woman, date or even attempted to break up with a woman saying everything she wants to hear. Most women love a man who is confident and willing to take a huge risk in order to sway her heart and unveil the mysteries of her sexual appetite! You have to be willing to tell her in a very flirty kind of way she would be much more attractive with her natural brunette hair color versus the cliché stripper blonde. Most often, the truth will set you free and cause her to react in ways that you may never image. Women love hearing what they do not really want to! It shows you have balls and you will always be honest no matter the cause.

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3. Loving more than her “Ass” and “Boobs”. By telling her “I am in love with your eyes… smile… the way you walk… or the way she can take the attention away from anyone in the room shows that you pay attention to details. Women are typically more detailed oriented. At times I have seen women pace a room, change their hair styles or even drop a joke to get a man to notice the small great things about them. Details, Details, Details! Focus and compliment a woman on the details that most men will often miss or pass up!

4. I got it! With the advent of metrosexuals, career losers and men who still live with their mothers there is a lack of strong men who say “Babe, I got it!”  This is the damsel in distress call to action statement. Women want to hear and know you got it before all else fails! As a man you must step up to the call of duty to make things happen. Love is for the strong not the weak. Show a woman you can handle repairing her flat tire, grab the tab at dinner, or even scoop her up when a situation is a bit unsafe.

5. “Show me what you got.” As most women know in 2014, they can do things too. Being the alpha male 24/7 can be a bit overwhelming at times and leave her sneaking out on you for some beta male relief. There are times where being the alpha male is great, needed and most often appropriate. But, since women like to show their muscles, flex their new sexual trick she learned in a random book her girl friend gave her and pay for the vodka shot at the bar after she closed the big account, you have to let her flex! By allowing her to flex she feels free and lets her be who she wants to be. After all, you never know, she may show you a thing or two.

6. You do it better than anybody. By telling a woman she can perform, cook or do whatever better than anyone shows her you’re making an effort to let her know she is the “ISH”. Men, we love a great compliment or positive comment after we prepare a great dinner, close on a business deal or perform a great “LAY”, so we need to boast a woman’s heads up as well.  If you give her some positive reinforcement to something she did well it will allow her to feel the confidence she deserves and will also make her want to start looking towards you for that positive reinforcement in everything she does.

7. NO. As children we’re often told no because we are doing something we most likely should not be doing although typically we try to do it anyway no matter the consequences. I said that to say this, it is okay to tell a woman NO. By saying no you show her you have restraint and you’re willing to exercise it at will. It also shows her you are not a push over and you will stand up for what you want and believe. Women find the word NO sexy, what can I say…

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8. This is how I feel. Okay, I tend to stay completely away from warm and fuzzy comments like this but… Women love to hear “This is how I feel…”  By telling her this you’re opening her up emotionally and showing you are willing to FEEL rather than to think.

9. I want you to meet my friends. Telling a woman this shows that you want to get her accepted by the people closest to you. The fact that most guys keep women hidden from everyone except their couch from college, 10 year old mattress and strange 27 year old dog named Jonny V this is a great sign that you want a little more. Of course like any of these great tips use this one in particular with extreme caution because she may only want to be YOUR booty call… What, it’s happen to me.

10. Amanda, Heather, Sarah. Say her NAME!!! Women want to hear you say their name. Babe, Hunny, sweetheart, Love, Sexy, Big Ol Butt and baby are great words to use once she knows she is the only one! But in the beginning of any conversation or relationship use her name. Women are sneaky creatures that pay attention to things we men take for granted…. For example, if you have a girlfriend what is her middle name? Don’t worry I’ll wait! Plus using words like babe and baby are corny and a bit annoying in the beginning.

I had to shed the light on the 10 Things women want to hear. Good luck guys!

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  1. chris griffith
    January 1, 2014

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    I would just like to say, I have recently gone into an anime phase. I’m 17 but women are still truly an amazing puzzle in which I have good standings with, many of the are attracted to me but I don’t know why. I’m sorta nerdy I have been told I’m cute and all that, along with being funny, I really don’t understand how I still make it with the girls that hang with me… at all.hopefully can use these and see if they make a difference with any of them. I’m not dating any of these girls but still……its my little experiment I guess

    June 22, 2014

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    Tell them you have 10” and a $750K portfolio. The rest wont matter.

  3. Willard Johnson
    August 10, 2014

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    The difference in women’s thinking just plain baffles my mind. In my case two sisters that were as different as night and day and only looked alike, they sure didn’t think alike at all. As it turns out they had been playing a game on me to see how I would score with the other so I don’t know how pure the difference between the two were but it sure messed my mind up trying to figure it out. I’ve since gave up trying to analyze this game they set up on me, and I’m just grateful for the ride which was very unique with both ladies to my delight.

  4. comedian big E
    September 2, 2014

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    I got a new radio show in Savannah,Ga. Love your tips and advise. Could use some of your tips as segments on the show. 912-996-7005

  5. Emanuel
    September 6, 2014

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    I realy want to learn more about this

  6. Honoly
    October 19, 2014

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    It will help me

  7. mm
    December 1, 2014

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    they love be told you ar young

  8. olivia
    December 19, 2014

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  9. Bob
    May 31, 2015

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    Good advice

  10. mupale Alex muleya
    September 1, 2015

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    Thanx for the information it has really helped me

  11. Van Vader
    May 17, 2017

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    What if you have known this female friend for over 10 years? I rekindled my friendship with her 3.5 years ago and kept it as friends and only saw her twice in the first two years.

    Since than she has invited me over for dinner a few times and we went out for drinks afterwards. No real sparks since we were just friends.

    Three weeks ago she invited me over for dinner, we had a great time but I didn’t feel as though she had anymore interest in me. She called me the next morning and during our conversation she said “I shouldn’t throw this out there but last night I wanted to push you down onto the couch, lay on top of you and cuddle”.

    I responded with something stupid. Saw her this weekend and again it just seems as though we are just friends. I’m confused, she makes it clear we are just friends, three weeks ago she told me my new scruffy facial hair was cute, last weekend she told me I should shave my facial hair, when I said I wouldn’t shave for her or any other woman, she replied that than she wouldn’t shave he legs or arm pits for me.

    We get along well, we talk a lot on the phone, with her initiating the calls 70/30 but I think it’s only because she has no female friends and I’ve become the female friend with a dick. I don’t know if the list would work on her, I’ve already done most what’s on the list except backing away and cutting down on phone conversations. We are good friends and I’d hate to lose her to another guy. She is a great looking woman and would have no problem finding a guy.

    • MrDateCoach
      December 28, 2017

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      MAKE A MOVE ON HER! Tell her how you feel and then make a physical move on her if she is open to it. This situation guys is what most men dream of. She sounds as if she is giving you all the signs to go for more out of the relationship.

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