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If you apparently know you have a loser boyfriend you are the only one that suffers and looks foolish at the end of the day by continuing to date him. With that being said what if you do not know you have a loser boyfriend!?

Believe it or not most people know they can do better in terms of finding a better life partner. But most women are scared to be alone. That statement I am sure does not come as much of a surprise. Most of my clients are willing to go from man to man just to ensure they are not sleeping alone at night.

When I inform my clients they are insecure and should live with out a man until they find a suitable one that has many attributes they want from a partner, I usually get the question of “well what’s not suitable”. Every woman has a list and every woman understands what she wants but I am here to tell you what you don’t want and 10 signs that your boyfriend is a loser!

1. He does not have a stable or steady job/ career due to lack of educational planning? So if he still feels his rap career is about to take off and he does not have a demo yet, tell him to start the job hunt for a new career. How can you put your trust in the hands of a man who is not realistic about how he plans to take care of himself?

2. Do you leave home and he’s there and when you return he is still there to notify you that he “heard” about some job openings and he knows what you should cook for dinner? This is a bad situation because he has a lack of drive or a lack of self motivation which is crucial in any relationship in order for you grow.

3. Any type of physical abuse is a very clear sign he is a loser. The lack of his concern for your physical and mental health is a very dangerous sign of a person who should seek help.

4. Does he not actively try to be in his children’s life from a previous girlfriend or ex-wife? Let’s just say when you have a baby you should know what to expect.

5. If he does not have any measurable goals, dreams or aspirations of wanting more in life. This goes back to the concept of if he does not want more for himself why would he want more for you.

6. Is he extremely negative about your personal success? Does he try to make you feel bad about you striving toward your goals? How can you see yourself growing if you have a person that claims they love you by holding you back?

7. Does he not open the door, walk on the outside of the street, or volunteer to make your life a little easier? Chivalry is not dead even towards the independent women.

8. Is he not concerned about his personal hygiene such as not cutting his hair, trimming his nails and or having a clean house? This can be easily fixed with some positive reinforcement. (That blog is coming soon, “How to make him clean up after himself”.)

9. Can he not be sympathetic to your needs and wants? If he does not show any type of empathy about your difficult life events he will have a hard time showing that to your family and friends.

10. If he can not survive on his own and heavily relies on his family or your support you may be in for a man that is unfortunately still a boy!

These are some major signs of a loser boyfriend. I usually always say with all of my advice these may not be clear indications of whatever the topic is but if he shows any of these signs you can guarantee that he is a loser.

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  1. Kiki
    April 19, 2014

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    My boyfriend is a loser all the way. I just don’t know how to break up with him.

  2. Will
    May 28, 2014

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    These qualities are not acceptable for men, but women can behave however they want.

  3. amy
    June 13, 2014

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    Thanks for ntje advice,!

  4. krystal
    October 4, 2014

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    Wow… my boyfriend fits into 7 of these! 32, lives at home with mom in a tiny cramped bedroom for free, doesn’t have a dime saved, has no education past hiS GED (yet he’s over $30,000 in debt!), works a dead end low paying job, has no goals and his idea of “job hunting ” is spending 5 minutes on Craigslist. Why I stick around is beyond me. :/

  5. Linda Mtsi
    November 24, 2014

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    Just what i wanted to hear.He is a loser and he has all these signs.
    Thank you very much!

  6. Jackie
    January 4, 2015

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    Wow ! My loser guy fits 8 of ten ! Pls save me ! I want a new one !!!

  7. foxyfoxy
    April 18, 2015

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    My ex fits all of them and he stalked me for a over a year.

    Any guy who is offended by this article is a loser.

  8. Tonna
    September 1, 2015

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    Wiw my piece of crap boyfriend fits all but one of these smh….i need help leaving…i called the cops thwy wont do anything….he is a leach.

  9. ion angelica
    February 12, 2016

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    hello my bf is a lsoer bye

  10. Cheryl
    July 30, 2019

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    My boyfriend is an alcoholic smoke too much cigarettes arrogant treats me bad and will not work how can I love such a man like this

    • MrDateCoach
      November 24, 2019

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      You can’t. It sounds like he may some work to do. But, it also sounds like you may need to work on knowing your self-worth!

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